Hopefully you would have worked out by now that there is more than a little British humour in the title for The Book of Filthy Sex Games. The fact is I could have called it 'Fetish' games, but then I wouldn't appeal to mainstream newcomers cumulatively excited by the titillating twists of pop culture kink; still, I wouldn't have had so much fun with the classical font either.
A couple of questions have arisen concerning what I've tried to do with the book, in turn dovetailing and seemingly contradicting it's intentions. So allow me to clarify.
I was inspired to write about positive kink FUN and SAFETY after seeing several weird incidences of manipulation and ineptitude at clubs and private play parties. Yes, it happens. It struck me (no pun intended) that some people were picking up crops and swinging them just because they were mean types or 'knew about S&M'. Plus there was a growing number of how I term Be-corseted Burlesque Betties and tops-off Silly Chilli Pepper Chaps being quite literally redress of ideas and 'fetiquette' when trying to mix in or barge about with the kinky crowd.
This isn't snootiness, but an observation. And most of the kink scene are a friendly and intelligent bunch who know what they're doing (to each other). But obviously the next, y and z generations were coming through with their libidos and hunger to learn more, but who was going to show them the menu?
These observations took place over the past ten years, well before the Fifty Shades boom. But some of the hyperbole surrounding that book, which is after all, fiction, deeply concerned me as well. I have to say I'm not against the book, I'm with the famous bibliophile Art Garfunkel: I think it's good.
(Although perhaps not as a massive trilogy, but then, it's very popular).
I eventually realised that non-fiction kink books tended to be instructional or ideas led, not both. That they were either pink and fluffy stocking fillers; or dark and mysterious, clever, ponderous foreboding tomes. Not both. Or that they were about 'kinky' or 'kink', overt porny sex or BDSM, alternative sex or fetish! Some books were academic and others, frankly, insubstantial.
None of them felt inclusive or interconnected.
There was no bridge between mainstream and alternative culture.They felt directly marketed or cliquey, jumping the bandwagon and uninformed. Of course, there are some brilliant works, but they are more specialised, and I recommend the good ones in the 'Library of Kink' in The Book of Filthy Sex Games. It's just that categories are only helpful in an actual library when you're looking for stuff, not for how you want be as a person.
Anyway, you see how my intentions are first about spreading the good news of positive kink and fetiquette, having both safety (instruction) and fun (ideas and recipes for kink): With no agenda except facilitation. It's a tricky thing to pull off (still no pun intended) and there will always be those subjective voices who will say I've either been reckless or a spoilsport.
Yes, another reason is to make a living.
How else can I justify time on this? I do need to eat. And yes, God I'd love a bundle of cash, that would be quite useful. But royalties (as opposed to sales) are not the be all and end all. For me it's the project that counts, and learning (I have learnt a hell of a lot these past few years, that's for sure) and growing from it to be a better writer and ultimately, lover for my partner.
Thanks for reading,
Jackson Rocco ; )
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