So you're back in the room. And the room is full of writhing bodies.
What about orgies?
What about them? The trouble with orgies is when you leave you never know who to thank. Old joke. But I can't really speak for these kind of parties, because they're not really my cup of meat.
I'm not polyamorous or a swinger, and again each individual practitioner will tell you whether not not they are enjoying it for the 'anarchy'. Most I have met testify to a certain need to wander from the norm, but within what they do there are codes, signals and cliques. Did you catch Sex Party Secrets on Channel 4? (See the trailer above).
So Channel 4 has to make entertainment out of this show.
What can they offer if they don't show the subject itself? What we get is empty rooms, mansion front gates closing slowly and talking heads in masks responding to why they do it. Well the answer is of course: for a good time. And there's no apology, just ordinairy people trying to follow their hearts. And probably the most important observation is that to follow this libertarian world of straight sex (not strictly kink) you need to be emotionally strong. In the same way that following your heart does take strength.
But if you think you are ready for this and you're interested in attending one of the parties you saw, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and mark in the subject PARTY REQUEST and I'll put you in touch with one of the organisers. Or contact me direct here. And of course there is a vetting procedure, just so you know. In the meantime ...Here are some tips!
Polyamory is touted as ethical because it's consensual and therefore supposed to be transparent, but it's not for those who quickly get exhausted by the protestations of one lover, let alone a small crowd. It works for many straight and kink players looking to explore a need their primary partner is not into, or for polysexual lovers looking to mix up the gender love with the someone othersex who can provide it. You can imagine, that I have only described a little of this scene and the potential for crossed-wires is enormous. But the inherent practice of open communication amongst the poly people tells you that this a world of subtle etiquette and power dynamics. Not anarchy.
Swinging tends to be more of a weekend leisure pursuit.
Not unlike golfing holidays, less the walking and clown costumes. It's about partner swapping, where both lovers' needs for other lovers is permitted and encouraged so therefore consensual. Protection, hygiene, vetting and organisation tend to be reoccurring topics at swinging parties, so again: it's not anarchy.
But then as we approach the end of part one of this blog I'm going to submit to you – yes I have been known – the idea of random chaos. Aren't we all, despite our best intentions at the behest of the next thing that happens?
In Pt3 (yes I know I've been jigging these blogs about, please forgive me) I shall tell you about a woman who tried to introduce her spanking and medical kinks into a relationship. Through wild abandon she attempted to bring her and her man closer. Meanwhile the man, who enjoyed all the ideas and showed his excitement realised he was being drawn into a place he was finding evermore increasingly intense. The question this relationship posed was: Why did this man have (a) fear of sexual anarchy if it was sexual liberation he was enjoying?
Incidentally: 'foabbwioaa' (see part 1) is the answer most given by people with ball-gags in their mouth when asked a question. I'm off for a quiet lie down.
Jackson ; )