Now I know you think my blog is orgasmic – thank you – but today it really is, as I unfold the scintillating unreality of whole body (multiple) orgasms as revealed in my book and in Game 20: The Mindblower.
So kinksters, if you like:
- restraints, ie bondage
- cuddling in catsuits
- tying up and teasing
- sensual play
- plastic wrapping
Of course, these physical, minimal movement 'exercises' will show you an incredible side of yourself you won't believe... until it happens. And once learnt, you can do them virtually anywhere. Why? Because it's hands free and the eh-hum, outcome, is... dry.
So, are you sitting (un)comfortably? Then let me tell you a story.
Once upon a time I went to a music festival.
During a hot summer’s day my attention was kept in alert mode by an inordinate number of scantily-clad rock chicks. As one does. In the evening I found myself sharing a tent with a male friend and frustrated by the fact that propriety prevented me from relieving myself from the pent-up excitement of seeing so many wonderful female forms. Strangely though I felt I could enhance the good feelings I had around my nether regions by focusing on the images in my head and ‘throbbing’ myself by will internally – thus not disturbing my sleeping friend.
As an experiment I kept going, as I felt there seemed to be an escalation of joy taking place, now not just in my groin, but throughout my body. Obviously my friend beside me was oblivious to my ‘inactivity’ as it would have appeared. And as it the festival campsite was so noisy, it proved a welcome distraction. By dawn I had moved into a blissful euphoria that became pronounced, sustaining itself for more than half an hour. Unbeknown to me I’d had my first whole body orgasm.
A few months later in WH Smiths I was gob-smacked to see The Multi-Orgasmic Man on their shelves, not least for the title but also because I found my hands-free experience exactly described inside. Wanting to spread the gospel to my mates about the raptures of being a multi-orgasmic man I gave the book to a few friends. The response was a series of confused looks ranging from hurt (“what are you trying to say?”) to ignorance (“I always thought you were gay”) from pride (“yeah, thanks, ehm, I already know”) to cliché (“God, you’re not into all this hippy psychobabble are you?”).
With the floodgates of knowledge now opened by the advent of the internet, surely attitudes had changed enough to reappraise this mind-blowing information? Let’s look at the benefits, clarified by the book. Firstly, the ‘multi-orgasmic’ bit refers to dry orgasms, not an ejaculation. Next, they’re internal, you pulse and glow on the inside. Thirdly, it’s not exclusive to men, women can have them too. Finally, orgasms reverberate over the entire body, not just the one spot. More significantly though, this information has been with us for thousands of years.
Most whole body orgasms in fact, occur through Taoist (pronounced ‘Dow-ist’) practice. Those into Tai-chi, Yoga or martial arts know the word ‘practice’ indicates no final result, but that the journey is all. The individual is ‘work-in-progress’, reflecting the changes within you and in life generally.
But is it worth it?
Imagine the best sex smile you’ve ever had – the one with a partner you connected with or didn’t want to run away from post coitus. Take that warmth, love and happiness from you laughing together and somehow, place that positive feeling into your arms and hands, legs and feet, head and brain, torso – and then of course your sexual organs and erogenous zones. Then feel it sustain from anything from fifteen minutes to an hour. Yes, yes, it’s worth it.
A new realisation of the power of the living world hits you, humbling and elevating you both at once. Its only psychobabble if you don’t…practice.
How does it work?
All the action takes place in an intimate area for both sexes, the space between the genitalia and the anus. A nickname for this place is ‘nifkin’ or ‘gooch’. Have fun with those words today. The proper word is the aforementioned ‘perineum’.
Above this is the pubococcygeus (pew-bo-cox-ij-ee-yus) or ‘PC’ muscle, between the pelvis and tailbone at the base of your spine. Here, it controls urine flow and contracts during orgasm. By ‘pulsing’ or tensing and relaxing this muscle (try it now, no one can see) you will get a hint of the latent power within you. An aid to practicing this ‘pulsing’ is through pressure on the perineum or ‘The Million-Gold Piece Point’ – this was the price it cost to get a Taoist master of ancient times to show you where it was – these days it’s called ‘Million Dollar Point’. Apply three fingers here, where the urethra passes near to the skin – the place exerting the control of the flow of your pee. Pressing this point can you get you to a point where you no longer need manual assistance.
Some may recognize this as the appropriated ‘Kegel exercise’ formulated by famous gynecologist, Dr. Arnold Kegel, in Los Angeles during the 1940s. He found that clenching and unclenching the PC muscle strengthens and tones, so reducing pelvic floor problems in women. They are also good for treating vaginal and uterine prolapse, while helping with urinary incontinence in both genders. Time for a picture of a man's bits and pieces.
Good for health, longevity and spiritual development, Taoists have claimed that the ‘Deer Practice’ – observers claimed wild deer were doing this as part of their mating ritual – maintains youth by preventing anal prolapse. The PC muscle is pulled and held for as long as possible, or flexed and released for a specified count, together with breathing or posture techniques for variation.
In Chinese medicine, ejaculation is seen as a loss of life-energy or chi (qi).
If you want to stay young guys, chasing whole-body orgasms will help avert premature aging, disease and fatigue: in short, no more ‘little deaths’. As Taoist master Yang Sheng yao Chi said: “A man should learn to control his ejaculation.
What is interesting for men is the idea of limitlessness. The rest or refractory period – in physiology when the organ stops working in order to reenergize – can eventually be non-existence as multiple orgasms can be sustained. Practitioners point out that focus over a long period is needed, that is, until you feel the waves of gratification pull you to more intense sensations. Generally, men (yang) have to hold on to reach their personal nirvana while women (yin) tend to have to let go.
This is all such good news, should it not be on the news every night (maybe squeezing out the sixth repeat of Two and Half Men?) so that we are all getting it? How happy we are when we sate the senses and our sexual cravings? How much more relaxed and harmonious we would feel with others. Or slightly suspicious of the smiley perve sitting rather too quietly at the bar.
The Book of Kinky Sex Games: Kink, Fetish and BDSM Through Adult Play advocates adding whole body orgasmic practice to any or all of your kinky sessions. See Game 20: The Mindblower
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets every Man Should Know; Mantak Chia, Douglas Abrams; HarperSanFransisco (amazon.com – prices vary)
The Multi Orgasmic Woman: Mantak Chia and Rachel Carlton Abrams; Rodale Books (amazon.com – prices vary)