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What We Mean by Fetish Scene

1/19/2015

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Dungeon Bar Brighton, UK

What kind of club is this?
The Dungeon Bar in Brighton is more of a bar/club hybrid, open for casual drop-in and late-night play. It's quite possibly the first of it's kind in that you can just walk in.

When you say play...?
All kinds of kink, from the image above you see straight away what or who is doable. You can use any of the equipment, they always have someone on hand to show you and you partner what's what. If anything hardcore is going on then the doorstaff instruct anyone coming in about what to expect.

When does the Dungeon Bar open and where is it exactly?
At the weekends for now (6pm-2am) , but I am sure they will do functions and special parties in the week as well. It's £5 late entry (free before) and it's situated in Regency Square which is opposite the dilapidated West Pier on the border of Brighton and Hove. It's halfway up/down on the western side in the basement underneath the Royal Pavilion Townhouse Hotel, which is convenient if you want to stay over, because they're affiliated.

Is it a straight or gay bar?
It's for all consenting adults. It's not overtly one thing or another, this is Brighton after all, although the abundance of play equipment screams KINK! and KINK! repeatedly. But I will recommend to the organisers to put on dedicated gay and lesbian nights, as this will attract those who need their community around them to feel less uninhibited.

Are newcomers welcome?
Of course. I've seen people walk in off the street purely out of casual curiosity. The hospitality is second to none, usually by hostess Kitten Skye, the Dungeon Bar's public face. And a beautiful one it is too. There are also plenty of seasoned players around too to keep an eye on things and seek advice from.

Kitten Skye, I recognise the name.
Yes she's a representative for the female-centric Killing Kittens phenomenon and I believe they might be going to do some of their 'women only' nights in the Dungeon Bar. Here's a "hot and arty" self-bondage film she made earlier... that YouTube banned.

Any big events coming up?
Apart from every weekend of course, the relaunch is Saturday 21st February, so I've stuck that in the Fetischedule. According to Facebook:
"Up until 10:30 it will be a BDSM-themed party and from 10:30 onwards it will be a hardcore (but no preassure) play event so we have the best of both worlds and curious vanillas and press can choose to leave before things get too debauched."

It's also hostess Kitten Skye's birthday.
She'll be 25, so take her a little present if you want to impress. She likes cake and chocolate.

Pictures by Woj Okuszko
Dungeon Bar Website
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The Fear of Sexual Anarchy (Pt2)

1/15/2015

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Hello again,

So you're back in the room. And the room is full of writhing bodies.

What about orgies?
What about them? The trouble with orgies is when you leave you never know who to thank. Old joke. But I can't really speak for these kind of parties, because they're not really my cup of meat.

I'm not polyamorous or a swinger, and again each individual practitioner will tell you whether not not they are enjoying it for the 'anarchy'. Most I have met testify to a certain need to wander from the norm, but within what they do there are codes, signals and cliques.  Did you catch Sex Party Secrets on Channel 4?
(See the trailer above).

So Channel 4 has to make entertainment out of this show.
What can they offer if they don't show the subject itself? What we get is empty rooms, mansion front gates closing slowly and talking heads in masks responding to why they do it. Well the answer is of course: for a good time. And there's no apology, just ordinairy people trying to follow their hearts. And probably the most important observation is that to follow this libertarian world of straight sex (not strictly kink) you need to be emotionally strong. In the same way that following your heart does take strength.

But if you think you are ready for this and you're interested in attending one of the parties you saw, email me at jacksonroccobdsm@gmail.com and mark in the subject PARTY REQUEST and I'll put you in touch with one of the organisers. Or contact me direct here.
And of course there is a vetting procedure, just so you know.
In the meantime ...Here are some tips!


Polyamorous lovers have more than one partner, as many partners as they want to arrange, based on convenience and stamina, mainly.
Polyamory is touted as ethical because it's consensual and therefore supposed to be transparent, but it's not for those who quickly get exhausted by the protestations of one lover, let alone a small crowd. It works for many straight and kink players looking to explore a need their primary partner is not into, or for polysexual lovers looking to mix up the gender love with the someone othersex who can provide it. You can imagine, that I have only described a little of this scene and the potential for crossed-wires is enormous. But the inherent practice of open communication amongst the poly people tells you that this a world of subtle etiquette and power dynamics. Not anarchy.

Swinging tends to be more of a weekend leisure pursuit.
Not unlike golfing holidays, less the walking and clown costumes. It's about partner swapping, where both lovers' needs for other lovers is permitted and encouraged so therefore consensual. Protection, hygiene, vetting and organisation tend to be reoccurring topics at swinging parties, so again: it's not anarchy.

But then as we approach the end of part one of this blog I'm going to submit to you – yes I have been known – the idea of random chaos. Aren't we all, despite our best intentions at the behest of the next thing that happens?

In Pt3 (yes I know I've been jigging these blogs about, please forgive me) I shall tell you about a woman who tried to introduce her spanking and medical kinks into a relationship. Through wild abandon she attempted to bring her and her man closer. Meanwhile the man, who enjoyed all the ideas and showed his excitement realised he was being drawn into a place he was finding evermore increasingly intense. The question this relationship posed was: Why did this man have (a) fear of sexual anarchy if it was sexual liberation he was enjoying? 

Incidentally: 'foabbwioaa' (see part 1) is the answer most given by people with ball-gags in their mouth when asked a question. I'm off for a quiet lie down.

Kink safely,
Jackson ; )
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