This week I'd like to discuss the very reasons why I'm into kink, and why indeed I believe it's a positive thing: So I'm going to do one of those listy things you see all over the interweb to hopefully get the points across.
Please comment if I've missed any.
1. You're in a club of two
When you share so much and so intensely in kink, fetish and BDSM you can't help but be excited and supported by the closeness you share with your partner. It will give you both a hidden smile that will add to domestic bliss and be your secret connection at public events.
2. Its a hobby and shopping together is never the same
Especially when hunting down fetish outfits, BDSM equipment, toys and pervertables, inanimate items you can manipulate to your perverted will.
3. You see and witness things in each other you hadn't before
When you go to different levels of kink sexperience with each other you reveal new layers and watch each other grow with knowledge, confidence and skill.
4. Your communication and psychology improves
By practising BDSM you learn to handle you and your partner's mind, body and spirit more decisively. You learn to speak directly with clarity and you learn to read what they want better.
5. Orgasm intensity, frequency and diversity all increase
This you discover by kink sexploration and communication. By becoming co-conspirators in your wild sex quest you share easier, making you relax and more adventurous. Have you ever had a multiple orgasm? A dry, internal whole body orgasm? How about one stimulated by the G-spot? Have you had your orgasm denied!? Don't knock it until you've tried it, or haven't, if you catch my gist (no pun intended).
6. Your honesty, compassion and compersion grows
By supporting each other's kink journeys your love for your partner becomes more about wanting to see them find genuine joy. Compersion is a BDSM scene word that defines the opposite of jealousy, especially used in session with players who invite additional lovers.
7. You're happier
Whether by sating a long-term (pervy? taboo?) desire or discovering an unexpected kink you both become more fulfilled: and it's with each other you are playing. This leads back to why you fancied your partner in the first place and obviously makes YOU more fun for your friends, family and colleagues to be around.
8. It keeps you mentally and physically fit
Through games and working out what you would like to do with and to each other you and your partner get an amazing brain and body work out.
9. All of the above equals love
If you were speaking about other activities that bring you as close as a 'hobby' like kink does, the studio audience watching your relationship would all automatically say: 'Wow, look at how they love each other'. Because it's kink obviously some quarters will want you to focus on fear. Naysayers are right to bring up safety, but kinksters tend to already know good BDSM is done safely, sanely and consensually with lots of time taken before, during and after kink sessions to practice communication, pscychology and aftercare.
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Wishing you profundity through perversion!
Play safe and have fun
Jackson ; )