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A Touching Story

5/1/2015

This week our columnist Nicky Ives feels her way out of the friendzone when a massage goes interstellar

So, I kind of met someone.
Actually, I met him a couple of years ago -- he's a good friend and goes to my church (hallelujah!). He's joined us on a family lunch out after church numerous times.
And come back to mine for a cuppa with me and the kids after.

And nothing ever happened.
I never let myself think of him like that.
Let's call him Jed.

Then one Sunday not so long ago, we were slumped on the sofa drinking tea.
Clearly, I know how to rock n roll.
My neck was really stiff and a massage was offered.

Holy. Fuckeroni.

Now, I'm a tactile person, always have been.
But Jed was a friend and I was getting seriously turned on from the start. So I focused on controlling my breathing, thinking it'll be over soon, I won't embarrass myself or him.
Clearly, it's just me having this reaction!

Next thing I know my top is nearly off and he's lying on top of me.
Pounding my shoulders.
Have I mentioned before that a little bit of pain can be an incredible turn on?!

Picture this.
I'm half naked lying face down on a leather sofa (mmmmmmm, leather) with an extremely fit man lying on top of me with his hands in my hair, breath on my neck, and elbows under my shoulder blades.

I came instantly.
Not that he knew that. Until now.

I told him it would be a good time to stop if he wanted to, because I was starting (Ha!) to get turned on. It goes hazy at that point, but soon clothes were flying, nails grazing, teeth nipping, hands gripping...

Next thing I know, there are the heavy steps of a nine year old coming down the stairs. We freeze. "Shit! Where are my clothes?" I giggle.
I manage to pull a t-shirt on in time, Jed had his boxers.

Child opens the door. "Erm.... Mummy...."
"Yes, darling?" I reply, as nonchalantly as possible:
As if I wasn't breathing heavily
top on inside out,
nipples standing at attention,
and hair like a few birds had nested in it.

"Look next to you"
I look at Jed, also breathing heavily,
in boxers and half in jeans,
magnificent torso on display,
back and shoulders covered in scratches.

(oops!)
"Yes, Jed was feeling a bit hot so he took his t-shirt off."
I'm mortified. Somehow I don't think this will win me mother of the year.
"Mummy can I play Star Wars? Jed will you play Star Wars with me?"
I so wanted to make a comment about wielding lightsabers, but I just giggled instead.

Jed soon went home, and came back later that night.
And that's a whole different story.

Rrrrrrrr. ;)

Nicky x

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Kink Media

4/16/2015

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A Fetish for Televison

It seems you can't pass a fortnight without a new media group looking to get kink on the box, YouTube and various social media to promote their gummi goodies or teach the world to kink. Here is our CatSuit round up of what out-there-kink channels are out there sending it... out there.

Taboo

Taboo is a documentary TV series that started on the National Geographic channel way back in 2002 and aired its 100+ episodes for ten seasons with it's last in 2013. Investigative and occasionally titillating, it served as a televisual Bizarre magazine exploring, basically, anything deemed as 'freakily' beyond the norm, and not purely fetish and kink I'm afraid. However, in the episode Fantasy Lives, Taboo examines a man from Florida with a cybersex avatar family, a Japanese champion kickboxer with a penchant for dressing up as female anime characters and an adult baby man from California who has had all his furniture customised. That's made actually bigger, not smaller. Think about it.

Rubber's Finest

Above is a clip for Rubber's Finest that appeared on German news service Spiegel TV (so only in German), but since that time RF have become RFTV, an online '.tv' channel with a professional quality set of shorts for kink consumers. Clips involve clubbing report, studio interviews and some charming QVC-style shopping promos, for RF products of course, and mostly in German with some English subtitles provided.

LatexFashion.TV

With a channel site that brings 'modelling, interviews and behind-the-scenes footage from fashion shows and events across the UK and beyond', (above at Rubber Cult with Sarah Kawaii) the (as of 16/4/2015)website-in-progress LatexFashion.TV also boasts a YouTube video page with a 100 clips. With a budding following on social media numbering in the thousands, LatexFashion.TV at the moment appears to cater for those wanting a fetish fix of girls in rubber. And there's nothing not pervy about that.

Vibrato's Fetish World

Human vibrator Shawn Bordoff aka 'Vibrato' exhibits himself on the streets of in a vibrating massage motor and LED light harness and within the first two minutes is promptly stopped by the Vancouver police. Vibrato's Fetish World, a hopeful kink travel show, is balls-out perverted brilliance. With a relaxed and comfortable-within-himself demeanour Vibrato makes for a natural TV presenter and advocate for... human vibrators everywhere. Despite the smallest of hits and likes he represents the fun and natural engagability side of our off-piste kink & BDSM realm. Here in a pilot for Canadian TV he introduces himself to his fellows Vancouvians before exporting his trademark ventilated hosting style for the heat of Kink in the Caribbean.

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The Gender Trap

4/11/2015

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This week our columnist, feminist sub Nicky Ives, is caught in the friendly fire of persuasion engendering

"Do you think it's possible I'm a lesbian?"
This was the start of a long text conversation with a friend, who sent me the message.
I mean, I guess anything's possible, in theory....

So I asked him what made him think that way.

"Well, I think my brain is a little over half woman.
And I'm attracted to women that are a bit like guys, or have similar qualities.
But physically, I'm more attracted to women than men."
Now I'm about as far away from an expert on such things as it's possible to be.
I'm a straight-ish
suburban
church-going
kink loving
nearly middle aged mother
and student.

But I'm open minded, which may be why he chose me to ask!
So, I invited him to explore a bit more of his feelings/ sexuality, especially as he'd been married (to a woman) and recently divorced.

He says he's just discovering this side of himself.
He likes to dress up, but not necessarily in women's clothing.
He has fantasies of being heavily dominated/ degraded by women, although his only actual kink experience has been with other men.

This guy lives near Brighton.
Personally I thought it would be the ideal place to explore some of this stuff, but he doesn't know where to start finding out who he is. So... I pointed him in the direction of the FetLife website, and a few others I thought might help.

So, the question is this: Is it possible to be a man who feels more female and is attracted to women? In essence, being a male lesbian?

Then came the best bit.

A message from his ex-wife, saying she thought her straight, heterosexual ex-husband would be perfect for me. This was about as far from the truth as it gets; but I told her I wasn't interested... as I'd finally met someone.

Which actually is true.
But I'm out of time so you'll have to wait until next week ;)

Nicky x

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Fetish Art

3/27/2015

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Michelle Mildenhall Brighton/London, UK

Who is Michelle Mildenhall?
If you don't know then you've probably been held hostage or on a world cruise, for she is the fast-rising latex pop artist whose works are instantly recogniseable and wanted by art lovers and fetishists alike. When I spoke to her she'd just sold two originals this very week, including Pleading, the famous ball-gag image.

When you say 'latex pop artist...'?
Ok so that's the handy hook, but stylish Michelle's influences range from Warhol and Aubrey Beardsley to latex couture designer Atsuko Kudo. Personally I sense some Matisse in the vibrant juxtaposition of cut-out colours. That's me being arty.

And 'fast-rising'?
Well not only has the Brighton-based artist garnered attention from the fetish scene, exhibiting for example at fetish event night Rubber Cult and making the cover of Skin Two magazine, but she's also been a page 3 feature in the Brighton Argus, been on ITV and been cited by The Guardian, all in the space of less than a couple of years.

How much are her works?
They vary. Best to check out her website really. She also takes on commissions so if you want to be immortalised in latex you know where to go! The good thing is you can not only obtain signed originals but also limited edition prints starting around £100. I would imagine both will be extremely collectable due to their popularity.

But what about the latex, doesn't it perish?
Sounds like an Alan Partridge question, but actually it's very relevant. Michelle told us there is quite a precise process to ensure that the work stays in its original condition. First the latex is sprayed with Kim West Fade Stop, not only protecting it from UV rays (not as though you'd want your work out on the beach anyway) but also keeping it dust-repellent, non-greasy and non-oily shiny. The finished pieces are then sealed in box frames with 99% UV conservation grade glass, which is better protection than most other works of art!

Wow, lots of care then. Where can I see her stuff?
Well, if you're Brighton way you can still see her piece Margaret Thatcher till April 3, Tuesday to Saturday 10am-6pm at Brush salon and gallery in the North Laine area of the city centre. Prints can be seen, already selling on Art Republic.

And future projects?
Michelle is contemplating doing a series of works based on T-Girl icons and also some new works based on submission. But the latest on that was that she'd have to run that past her long-term partner and number one fan, Gavin. Perhaps she's has some life-modeling work planned for him...

For more information and news do try:
www.michellemildenhall.co.uk

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I Can Cougar

3/13/2015

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This week our columnist NICKY IVES, has Skyped back into the game and discovered some new tricks

So. I've been away for a while (sorry!) but I've been a busy girl, and I have learned a few things over the last few weeks!

1) I can have a one night stand.
I never thought I was an ONS girl, but hey, it's another tick on the old bucket list;

2) I can cougar. Or MILF. Which is it? I really don't know; And,

3) it is entirely possible to have absolutely fantastic kink laden fun, long distance.
All hail the wonders of Skype!

Let me explain.
The first two points are kind of one and the same.
Do you remember when I talked about the young uns a while back? Well, one if them turned into an ONS. And to be honest, it wasn't all that.

How does one explain to a young prude that things need to be spiced up a little?
And yes, this is the one who looks like an alterboy. Eeeek. But this took place after the long distance thing.

I guess it's the classic story of old childhood friends, he was the boy next door (when we were 5) who now lives in the other side of the Atlantic.

So after a brief catch up on the last couple of decades via Skype, then the wonderful discovery that we are very similar in outlook meant I have had the most amazing amount of fun even though we weren't actually together in person.

I've certainly learned that sex can be absolutely explosive online... Who knew?
For an old fashioned gal like me, that's some serous news. Sadly that didn't last very long, hence the alterboy. Which was in person.
And not nearly as much fun.

You'd think I learned from that, right?
Sadly, no. I have repeated the experience.... Once....so far..... Let's see what happens.
I definitely know that sleeping with an absolute prude Is not the way forward.
But I'm back in the online dating thing so anything is possible...

Nicky x

For safe, fun long disctance sex games try
Game 5 Skype Sex and Game 45 Conference Call from
The Book of Kinky Sex Games

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Kink Media News

1/19/2015

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One Door Closes, Another One Opens

Strange – bizarre even? – that in the same week a major alternative title has folded that a potentially major channel for fetish and kink infotainment.
Firstly it was announced that the home of shock and phwoar alternative freakery, Bizarre magazine, has closed up shop after 18 years. In an official post on Facebook, publishing house Dennis has said: "Since its launch in 1997, Bizarre has brought together members of the alternative scene. It offered an uncensored view of the world, lifting the lid on the things other magazines run screaming from featuring the most thought provoking stories and photography on the planet. Unfortunately with a large proportion of the printed magazine market suffering a decline with lower sales in an increasingly digital age, Dennis Publishing has made the difficult decision to close the publication."

Meanwhile Tim Woodward of Skin Two has begun uploading some of the brand new content for his kink transatlantic TV project currently in the first stages of launching. The initial film by KFS Media is called The Kink Guide to San Francisco, a city close to Tim's heart, and features scene celebrity Polly Superstar, embedded below.

Well, perhaps this is the best outlet for kink info and entertainment in these days of rollercoaster media upheavals, where not only style and market are vital to a brand's longevity, but also the very way such content is digested.
As long as the kink keeps coming, I'm sure we'll all keep a pervy eye open. Best of British with it Tim!

For a dedicated post on Bizarre magazine, read Kitten Skye's excellent blog An Ode to the Bizarre

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Sick Note

1/15/2015

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This week our columnist NICKY IVES, isn't feeling so great, spending her days flu-ridden, and thinking about...

Week 5

I have been really sick this week.
I don't mean sick as in a sexually explicit, depraved and obsessed way – I'm like that all the time – but sick in the flu virus kind of way. And the worst part of it is that all I can think of is sex. That is, what I remember about it.

I've never understood the old cliche of 'not tonight, dear; I have a headache.'
Do people really say that? Really??!

I get headaches a lot.
From migraines to sinus headaches to changes-in-weather headaches, to stress induced ones. And frankly, there is a cure for them, All of them. A miraculous, cures-everything cure.

Yup.... kinky sex.

Works instantly.
And the same with all illness,

In my own humble experience....
Sex. Cures. All. Ills.
So, I'm stuck in bed with the flu – fever, shakes, limb weakness, fatigue, blurred vision;
and all I can think of is that I need a bloody good seeing to.

When the nice ladies at the church ask if there's anything I need, I have to bite my tongue so I don't say "yes, actually; a man with an insatiable sex drive to fuck the flu out of me.

"Over and over again.
And then some more.

"Then again for good luck.

"Oh, and make it another, just to be on the safe side."

The sad fact, like many this past month, I've been Unwell.
And I crave sex more than ever.
The kinkier the better.
But I'm single and I don't sleep around.
I admire those who do, I'd like to be more like that, but it just isn't me.

When (please, God!) I find myself a monogamous kinkster,
I'll enjoy being sick a lot more.

A LOT more
Nicky
;-)

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Kink Media News

12/10/2014

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Positive Fetish Film Shines Through

Three years in the making the Fetish Subculture Documentary has finally made it to the internet. Filmed on a tight budget and produced and directed by Carl Simard, the Canadian pro-kink exposé stars models Jean Bardot, The Richard aka Richard Cardinal, Holy Scar and event organiser Eric Paradis.

Supported by the Montreal fetish scene the work feature voxpops with various designers, film-makers and photographers and aims to: "demystify fetishism by using the fetish community’s point of view." The makers have also asked viewers to "enjoy the show.... and if you appreciate the documentary please share it on social media and add us as a friend.
– Loving the work guys, lets keep the fetish tide turning...

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Young boy, get out of my heart

12/9/2014

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The adventures of columnist feminist sub NICKY IVES, a churchgoing townie in her quest for kinky love in...

Week 4

Recently has been a time of a highly unexpected case of the young uns.
I may be somewhat kink obsessed with a wardrobe full of dodgy fishnet and miniskirts and the odd corset (or three) but the truth is that I'm also a 30-something-year-old woman.

I'm running headlong into middle age.
And to be honest I can't WAIT to hit the big 40 so I can use my midlife crisis as an excuse to get myself a Harley, suit myself up in leathers from head to foot (mmmmmm, leather) and generally behave badly. But I digress.

The young uns.
I've never been the cougar type. Maybe it's because the cubs have never taken much of an interest in me before. I don't know.
But the week started with a 20-year-old American kid messaging me on a dating site (yes, I still dabble from time to time.) when I politely pointed out that I was:

1) old enough to be his mother, and

2) he was too far away; but that I

3) wished him the best of luck...

I was accused of being: 'ageist, and f***ing unintelligent.'
The young man also added that he didn't want my 'f***ing luck:'

I told him he had it anyway, it was mine to wish whether he liked it or not.
More defensive abuse followed, which, to be honest, made him seem even more like a teenager.

Then another message, same site.
This time, an 18-year-old:

'Your evil little secret is safe with me. I love it when a girl squishes bugs.'

As I have no idea what in particular he was referring to in either part of that message, I declined to reply.

And last of all the very nice boy I see at my local pub.
We've chatted a few times, a little flirtation has taken place – but he is over much younger than me. And just to emphasise it, this one looks about ten years younger than he actually is.

Yes, I took him home with me.
Along with a friend who decided to come along and 'keep us company.'
This friend (barely out of his teens.... see a pattern here?!) didn't really get any of the subtle hints and stayed for a 'friendly chat' with a beer. Until I had to kick them both out.

Should I be flattered?
The only other time I've had the interest of someone younger was about six months ago when I had to escort a good (young!) friend of mine out of the bedroom when he insisted he 'couldn't find the spare room' at 3am.

And 3:15am.

And once again after that.

The kid was gorgeous, temptation was there.

But, see how I called him 'kid?'
When I take him home, I want to feed him.
And I know his mother... *shudders*

Any cougars out there wanna give me some pointers?
And how does one even begin to introduce the concept of kink to a man who looks like an alterboy?

Til next time...
Nicky x

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December Events Round Up

12/8/2014

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Just a quickie to avail you SOME of the main
UK fetish events going on in December:

Click on the events for more details:
11TH: SINDAY PLEASURES
WEST MIDLANDS, £10

13TH: CLUB RUB XMAS HEAVEN OR HELL
LONDON N5, adv: £17/18

14TH: LONDON FETISH FAIR
VAUXHALL, Depending on times: £7.50/£10/£15

27TH: SWEET TORMENTS: SEASON'S TORMENTS
For details go to the Sweet Torments and Medulla profiles on Fetlife
CAMDEN, adv £15 door £20

30TH: TG NYE BALL
MINISTRY OF SOUND, LONDON, adv £33 door £40

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